RT Journal A1 Wielawski IM T1 MY mother the gardener JF Archives of Internal Medicine JO Archives of Internal Medicine YR 2012 FD August 13 VO 172 IS 15 SP 1131 OP 1131 DO 10.1001/archinternmed.2012.2378 UL http://dx.doi.org/10.1001/archinternmed.2012.2378 AB As a HIPAA (Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act) designee, power of attorney holder, and lifelong confidant, I had been drilled from an early age to go to the mat with anyone who threatened her freedom to live as she wanted. This is your job, she commanded—over and over again until I wanted to cover my ears. Yet I understood the fear that underlay these 2-fisted pronouncements and promised to do my best.